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Sunday, August 30 2015

There is something about being chronically sick and told you're essentially "a ticking time bomb"  that really helps to put things into perspective.

When I was first diagnosed with FAP in 2010 (I was 19), I was told that I wouldn't be at risk of bowel cancer until I was 30. It made me realise just how much I wanted to do and achieve while I still could.

Then in late 2012, I found out the polyps in my bowel were turning cancerous and that I only had a matter of months to act and have all of my bowel removed. You would think that this would cause more of an alarm and prompt me to want to do a lot more with my life, but as the bowel cancer risk was removed, I naively thought that my risk of cancer would be removed and I could get on with my life..

But boy was I wrong.... My cancer journey didn't end there. In fact, I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer earlier this year too which thankfully was successfully removed in April while it was still in the stage I phase, remained contained within my thyroid meaning it hadn't reached nearby neck tissues.

It wasn't until a year ago that I had this drive and motivation to want to do everything I have ever only imagined in day dreams, was re-ignited and has been a continual driving force (and distraction this past year). It made me realise that while I was content with my life and my accomplishments so far, that I didn't feel entirely happy, and I knew that there was more I wanted to do and see.

So I decided I would write a happy list, as opposed to a bucket list for one of two reasons:
1. it sounded more positive than saying bucket list
and
2. it would be a list of things I want to do, that would truly make me happy within myself.

What was the changing point for me, was when I was in hospital for pancreatitis when the doctors did a CT scan that revealed there was this new and rather large tumour and suspected it was a desmoid tumour. These types of tumours are really rare, but they can also be rather deadly and life threatening and these 'aggressive fibromatosis' can cause death.

To put it bluntly, when I was first diagnosed with FAP my doctors said that they "hope that you don't develop desmoid tumours... if it isn't the cancer from the FAP that kills you the desmoid tumours will".

So while I am only 24, I have come to terms with the fact that this condition will kill me, I just don't know when. Some doctors mentioned up to a year if the tumours continue to grow at the rate they currently are (thankfully last lost of treatment is keeping them at bay and no new growth) but others have said 5-6 years.


So it helps me to have a list of things that I want to do, that will make me happy but also offer my life more meaning. 
My 5 reasons for having a happy list as opposed to a bucket list is:

#1. Happiness
It was a no brainer that happiness be one of my reasons for wanting to have a happy list, as the word happy was in the title of it. Now, I'm not saying I'm not happy at the moment because I am but I want to be more happy.

For me a big part of my happiness has always been results driven and I am more happier when I feel like I have accomplished something, which brings me to my next point.

#2. Sense of accomplishment and fulfilment (purpose/direction)
My husband always seems to be getting cranky at my when I mention how I feel like I haven't accomplished much and want to have more of a purpose or direction of where my life is headed. The comparison thief plays a big part of this, but no matter what I do or try to do I still feel that I need to do more and often meaning bigger things.

And this has only gotten worse over the last year as there is still so much that I want to see and do and I don't know how to achieve it all. I want to die knowing that I made the most out of every day and I want others to see me as this amazing and successful person as opposed to "that girl that was really sick".

I want to be known as more than what my illness defines me as, as I am so much more than that girl that's really sick. But I also don't want my family or friends to say I was a lousy person because sometimes I was too unwell to make it to social events.

#3. Is more empowering and motivating
I find having a happy list helps me to feel more positive and optimistic about my future plans, as opposed to being depressed at the thought that I want to do things because I could die.

For me it is more empowering to see it as a positive of things I have dreamed of, and motivating to help me want to do it. I find other's are more accepting of my happy list of things to see and do as opposed to it being my bucket list.. which brings me to #4.

#4. Offers inclusion of others
Through being more positive about things I want to do and especially things that involve others (like my family and friends), I find they are wanting to join in and get excited about the activity or goal at hand, as opposed to being depressed that I am only wanting to do these things as I might die.

I also find that through having a happy list and being more positively about things that I hope this helps my family to remember the times shared and make memories with me and link these memories with happiness and fulfilment rather than sadness and loss.

#5. Works as a distraction
If I said it was easy knowing you have a chronic illness that can kill you is easy, I would be telling a major fib... and that isn't what my blog is about! Some days it can be extremely hard when I have new progression or diagnosis' or travelling the 16 hour round trip to see specialists in Sydney. Some days it can be too much and I easily feel overwhelmed, and not wanting to get out of bed to face the world.

But I find that my happy list serves as a distraction tool, and while I don't think I can ever completely forget the reality I am faced with every day, I can use my energy to focus more on the things that are important to me and that I want to see/do... and for me keeping busy is the ultimate distraction and one of the many coping mechanism I have.

Things on my happy list include (in no particular order):
☐ Being tumour free
Have confidence to be the real me and show others who I am
☐ Finishing a counselling course
Making a difference to someone's life
☐ Writing a book and telling my story
☐ Come up with a kick-ass start up idea
Win an award
☑ Have my product in a national newspaper
​☐ Travel around Australia
Have my own house
☐ Have a Japanese garden where I can escape my reality
☑ Get a kitten preferably a Ragdoll
☐ Have an office where I can be inspired to write and create
☑ Go on an all expenses paid business trip for my blogging
Do motivational speaking
☐ Be an entrepreneur and make at least $100k in one year
☐ Become a successful blogger, so successful and influential that I would be given a car (if not free, at a huge discount)
To have a family and my husband to have a child of his own 
☑ Have a celebrity receive a product you made (Ellen received one of my Santa Keys last year!!)
☐ Being there for my siblings when they need me
☐ Reaching 1 million views on my Made With Love-Cards and Crafts blog (currently at 390k)
☐ Reaching 500k views on Feeling Ostomistic (currently at 285k)
☐ Have my own magazine column
Start an online magazine
☐ Start a Not For Profit
☐ Do something newsworthy
☐ Lose a lot of weight, and be healthy enough to start exercising
☐ Become rich enough to have someone cook for me and drive me around
☐ Finish a university degree
☐ Go on a cruise
☐ Travel the Great Ocean Road (Melbourne- Adelaide)
☐ Travel to Kangaroo Island
☐ Vist Tasmania
☐ Visit the Pink lake in WA
☐ See a sunset from the West Coast
☐ Visit Coober Pedy

☐ Learn photography
☐ Meet Ellen Degeneres
☐ Have my own TV show making crafts... be the next Martha Stewart (without being in prison)
☐ Write for a big blog

I know some of these may sound over the top, and I admit they are but if you're going to dream you might as well dream big as well as being realistic... now if I could just find the next multimillion dollar idea, I will be well on my way to taking over the world (not quite literal).

So tell me, do you have a happy list and what is one thing you want to mark off your list? Feel free to comment below.

 
Posted by: Talya AT 05:50 am   |  Permalink   |  1 Comment  |  Email
Saturday, August 29 2015

When it comes to gift giving and finding the perfect personalised gifts, I seem to have a nack for finding those perfect gifts that will have people talking about, especially if there is a story behind receiving the gift.

Originally, I was planning this post to promote in the lead up to Father's day... but as this is now only a week away I realise it could be best represented as a general gift guide for Christmas (which someone reminded me yesterday was only 119 days to go), for a birthday coming up or for Father's day whether it was a belated 2015 gift or planning ahead for 2016.

Either way, I have sourced some pretty awesome gifts that I know any dad or husband would love and appreciate.

BEST OF ALL these are made here in Australia by small businesses and some are even handcrafted/handmade. I love supporting the little guys in business, who are working hard to support their families and helping us all to add something unique to our lives.

Here is my list of 10 personalised gift ideas your dad or husband would love!

#1. Personalised Chopping Boards | Miss Bold Design $35 + shipping
We all know dad's love a good BBQ and some of my fondest memories of my dad and growing up involved his legendary barbies, so if your dad (like mine) loves to cook or put on a good BBQ then spoil him with his very own chopping board.

I love the boards created by MissBold Design, and there is a range of designs to suit each dad's personality. A sure way to make any dad, husband or even your pop feel special!

Miss Bold Design also has a range of other boards perfect gifts for your mum, nan, friend, or as a wedding gift personalised with their name and the date of their wedding.

Current turnaround: Please note that personalised boards will be created after September 12th, 2015

 


 


#2. Prints for Dad, Pop, Grandpa | Ollie's Room from $15 + shipping

The range of Quote/name prints available at Ollie's Room are a perfect gift to not only brighten up a room, but pop it in a fram and you have a special keepsake!

❖ Each print can be personalised with a name or custom writing* and can be personalised with 2 colours.
❖ The name 'Dad' can be changed with any name you prefer
❖ Professionally printed on 260gsm weight archival paper which should last around 30 years

Available in the following Sizes:
❖ 20.32cm x 25.4cm (8"x10") ❖ A4 Size - 21.0cm x 29.7cm (8.3" x 11.7")
❖ A3 Size - 29.7cm x 42.0cm  (11.7" x 16.5") ❖ A2 Size -  42cm x 59.4cm  ( 16.5" x 23.4") 
Frame not included, you are purchasing the print only. *A fee may apply.

Turnaround: As each print is individually personalised and professionally printed by our printing company, delivery times to you can take 2-3 weeks (approximately).  If you wish to purchase express postage. Please contact us before ordering.

 

PLUS a FREE printable for dad/grandpa thanks to Ollie's Room!
Click here to see the
FREE printables

#3. Personalised Man Stands | Blacklist Prints $38 + shipping

The Man Stand is the perfect gift for any guy who needs a place to store those things he only wears when going out. The Man Stand doubles as a iPhone or iPad dock and will keep all his things ready to grab when walking out the door.

❖ Store (& Charge) an iPhone or iPad.
❖ Store a wallet & Watch
❖ Hook for Keys and a Slot for Pen
❖ Cut out for coins or wedding ring.

The Stand is adjustable and can be set at different heights for reading or watching movies. The Stand also folds flat so he can take it away on holidays or business trips.

Excludes accessories shown in picture for demo only, the demo images show Non-Personalised Man Stands. Non-Personalied Man Stands are $33 + shipping. 

Turnaround: Include a personalised message on your Man Stand, see their Fb page for examples. Please allow 7-10 days for personalised products.

 

#4. Personalised Gifts for Dad | Zelsk from $8.50 + shipping

If you've got some beautiful photos of your children and want to create the ultimate personalised and keepsake gift, then look no further, as I have found the solution... Zelsk! Based in Brisbane they ship all over Australia.

Some of their unique gifts pictured include (and not limited to):
❖ Funny/Punny wine labels for dad starting at $8.50 (Wine bottle not included)
❖ A4 120 piece puzzle of 6 of your images $21.50
❖ MDF glossy puzzle of your image $28

Not pictured are:
❖ Personalised Dad's swear jar ($ to be confirmed)
❖ Set of wooden Photo coasters ($ TBC)
❖ Personalised photo mugs ($ TBC)
❖ Personalised photo clocks ($ TBC)

Turnaround: Orders and the online store is closed until 7th September 2015, but like their fb page to be kept up to date when the store re-opens and their exciting new rebrand too.

 

#5. Personalised Heat Packs | Lil' Sunshine Collections $35 + FREE shipping

Heat packs are a perfect gift for Dad, Grandpa or your husband. Created in a range of designs (pictured). Available in one size –  approximately 28x19cm!

Personalise it on the front with any name (eg. Dad, Grandpa, Uncle, Poppy, etc) you’d like in and as these are printed on both sides and the pattern wrapping seamlessly all the way around, you can add a personal message on the back with who the heat pack is from!

The heat bag is made entirely of 100% cotton. Filled with raw long grain rice, and organically dried lavender. A beautiful, soothing & divine scent to smell, as well as staying warmer for much longer.

Easy to use and quick to heat up! Perfect for aches, even lovely to pop into bed to take off the chill. Lavender is calming so will enhance a great nights sleep. Or to chill – Put in a small plastic bag & pop into the freezer. It won’t freeze like a block of ice, instead the grains of rice become super cold & very pliable.

Turnaround: As these are all individual and personalised, they are made to order, please allow approximately 3-4 weeks from the date of order for delivery.

The 10 most awesome personalised gift ideas for Dad continues after this image.


#6. Personalised Wrapping Paper | Love JK  from $7.95 + shipping
We all know how much love and precision goes into wrapping each present. What if I told you that you could have PERSONALISED wrapping paper with YOUR OWN PHOTOS and it is conveniently shipped the next business day from Melbourne! How good does that sound!

Give your gift the WOW factor by ordering your very own wrapping paper which comes in a range of sizes starting at 43cm x 1m and ranging to 43cm x 5m lengths of paper.

Some product information at a glance (see their website for more detail):
Printed on 88gsm high quality photo matte paper
Paper is bright white in colour, and photos print beautifully
Printed edge to edge (Borderless)
Rolls are shipped in a sturdy protective mailing tube and protected with tissue paper

Current turnaround: Orders are shipped next business day excluding Australian and Vic Public Holidays.

 

 

#7. Personalised Beer Mugs | Personalised Favours from $18.50 + shipping

Show Dad how much you care on Father’s Day, his birthday or Christmas with a laser-engraved 500ml Beer Mug! Have his name and a special message engraved for a personal gift your Dad will love and no doubt cherish.

Each Beer Mug or Beer Stein is professionally laser engraved with your selected artwork or custom image. Best of all, all artwork is completed free of charge with unlimited revisions!

What makes this the perfect gift for your dad, is that it is practical but also more memorable than a tie or gift card... it is a gift he can cherish and show off for years to come.

Besides, I am sure it will earn you the Child of the year award too, not that it is a competition or anything with your siblings (but if you're a competitive bunch, this is a must).

Turnaround: Your gift will be on its way to you in only 5-10 working days, even faster if it is urgent.




#8. Wooden Dad Wall Hanging| Bubs and Beans $51.95 + shipping
A great gift for Dad, whether its Christmas, Fathers Day or Birthday, or just because he truly is the 'Best Dad'!

This gorgeous wooden wall hanging is made from bamboo and is finished with a light natural wax to enhance the natural colour and grains of the bamboo. This plaque measures 19cm x 23cm and is 2.5mm thick. It also comes with natural twine so is ready to hang.

Please note that as Bamboo is a natural product, the colour and grain may vary slightly from the images shown here. 

This beautiful wall hanging is designed and made in Australia.

Current turnaround: This will be shipped approx. 1-2 weeks from the time of order

 



 

#9. Personalised Guitar Pick Keyring | LOVEnCHERISH from $40 + shipping

Does an important man in your life love playing the guitar? If so this personalised metal guitar pick is not only the perfect gift but a unique keepsake as well.

Available in your choice of:
❖ Sterling Silver
❖ Brass
❖ Copper
❖ Aluminium

If you're looking for the pick on it's own and not on the keyring, LOVEnCherish have a range of metal picks with and without key fobs. Pricing varies on design, but a sentimental gift that will be loved and cherished over the years to come.

Each pick can be personalised too with a name or date.

Turnaround: Orders are processed in order of date of payment received.  Regular custom orders take up to 2-3 weeks to be made and are then posted out via registered post (Australia only).

 

#10. Custom Torch Light Stubby Coolers | Kool4U Stubby Coolers $TBC
Your dad or husband will be the talk of the next party or social event with these cool Custom Torch Light Stubby Coolers from Kool4U!

Not only is this a stubby, but it is also a torchlight and illuminates your beverage into cool colours. These are the coolest stubbies around.

If you're after a custom printed design they can help you with that too! Oh and if you're not after the torchlight stubbies but a custom printed normal stubby, this can be arranged too.

Each stubby cooler is made in Australia using high quality neoprene (wet suit material) to keep your drink staying cooler and fresher for longer. Also made with a double stitch and rubber base.

P.S they also make custom printed Bar runners! 

Current turnaround: Please note that orders take approx 7-10 working days to complete + shipping timeframes, see their website for more information!

I hope you've enjoyed finding some new products and businesses to browse, I know I already have some of these gifts in mind for the important men (my pop, uncles, brothers, and of course my hubby) in my life.

The main drive behind this post was a rather personal one. In the lead up to Father's Day this year, I (like every year since my dad passed away) felt a bit sad. But this year I decided I would do something different and I decided I would go searching for items I would have bought for my dad if he were still with us; and with those products and businesses I found, I would then pay it forward by doing a little gift guide for dad and promoting these businesses.

Disclaimer: The businesses I featured above were businesses I have come across through my own findings and thought they were pretty awesome not to share. I simply wanted to create a gift guide to help with buying gifts for your husband, dad or grandfather (even your brother too).
 

 

 

 

 

 
Posted by: Talya AT 01:34 am   |  Permalink   |  1 Comment  |  Email
Monday, August 24 2015

I recently had a brain MRI as I was experiencing recurring symptoms I had when I was first diagnosed was arachnoid cysts on my brain in 2009, so as the symptoms had returned (the headaches, hearing loss and vision issues) I thought it was best to have a repeat MRI. The scan confirmed that the cysts that had been fenstrated (drained) back in 2009 had returned and were as big as they were then, and after consulting with my brain surgeon we agreed to monitor it for 6 months as this is the least of my conerns right now health wise.


My most recent MRI scan showing my brain (yes I do have one) and the cysts

So I had a reader message me after my scan, sharing that she too was going to have an MRI but she was feeling a bit concerned as she didn't know what to expect as she hadn't had one before, so she asked if I could share my experience and any tips to help her prepare.

What to expect when you need an MRI scan
& how to prepare for one in 10 easy steps!

What is an MRI machine?
MRI stands for Magnetic Resonance Imaging, and according to Better Health Channel it is a scan used for diagnostic imaging that uses a magnetic field and radio waves to help view what is going on inside your body, but is more commonly used to look at soft tissues (such as organs, and muscles) that don't show up on an X-ray.

An MRI also takes high resolution images of soft tissues and the picture is more clearer than a CT or X-ray.

How does the proceedure work?
You will be asked to lay on the scanning bed, which moves and slides you into the MRI tunnell. Sometimes (depending on what part of the body is being scanned) they will strap down or put a cage around the area so you don't move that part of your body, reason being if you move at all the images become blurry and you may be asked to re-do your scan. When I had my brain MRI they put this cage/mask over my head and secured it to the table so I couldn't move.

Some scans can take up to an hour to complete, and the tunnel you slide into is very small and it is normal to feel a bit claustraphobic as well, but there is an intercom inside the tunnel and you're given a button to press if you need to speak to the imaging technician.

The machine is also very loud (can be compared to that of a jackhammer), so you may be given ear plugs or ear muffs to wear. Some machines also have headphones that play music.

How much does a scan cost?
As the MRI is a specialised pieces of equipment it is also very expensive to run. Depending on the reason for the scan or where you're getting the scan done at can influence the price of the scan. Medicare (is the system we have here in Australia) bulk bills in some cases, but most of the time there could be an out of pocket expense. But it is best to ask when making your appointment what costs will be involved. One MRI I had in 2009 cost $685, so it is best to check up front.

Some places may also allow you to pay the gap and charge the rest to medicare, but as I mentioned before it is best to check with medicare and the imaging place what costs will be involved.

Can anyone have an MRI?
While most people can have an MRI, it is always best to check with your doctor or the radiologist if you have any concerns. While it is considered a safe procedure, some people may not be able to have the scan if they have a pacemaker or any implant, any metal in their body (that can't be removed) or people who are pregnant. It is always best to check with your doctor though if you have any concerns.

How to prepare for an MRI in 10 steps:
#1. You will be asked to not have anything to eat or drink for at least 4-5 hours BEFORE the scan, but this can vary depending on the part of the body being scanned or the time of day. It is important that you follow the fasting guidelines to ensure the best result of your scan.
#2. Allow at least an hour for the scan, and allow for additional time involved if they are running behind schedule or if you have paperwork you need to fill out.
#3. Remove all piercings and metal from your body, if you have any internal implants or metal objects it is best to tell someone immediately BEFORE having your scan.
#4. You may be asked to remove all clothing and put on a hospital gown, this is incase there is any metal on your clothing such as your bra, studs on your jean pockets or a zipper etc.
NB: Wear comfortable loose fitting clothing that doesn't have any metal to avoid having to strip down into a hospital gown, but not all practices will let you wear your own clothing either, so always ask. But I always wear tracksuit pants and a loose t-shirt when I have any scans.
#5. Turn your mobile off or to aeroplane mode before your scan
#6. If you find yourself feeling claustraphobic in confined spaces, it is best to tell someone before your scan. They can sometimes offer a sedative or anti-anxiety medication to help you relax. Otherwise if you know how to meditate and if it helps relieve your anxiety you can practice that.
#7. If you have an iPod or phone with music on it they may be able to play this for you and you can hear it through your headphones. The machine can be really loud with a lot of banging and clicks (sounds like a jackhammer).
#8. If you don't wish to listen to music and want to try to meditate or have a nap bring a set of ear plugs.
#9. Pack some panadol if you're prone to headaches which are brought on by loud noises to offer some relief after the scan (consult with your doctor first if panadol is right for you)
#10. It can be quite cold in the scan room, so bring a pair of socks to wear on your feet to help keep you warm. You may be offered a blanket too.

ONE thing I like to do after my scan, is to go for a nice lunch or coffee with a friend. Not only does it help ease the anxiety I feel while waiting for my results to come back (can be a couple of days) it also is nice after having had starved all day prior to the scan.

These tips are based on my own experience of having multiple scans, and I am sharing to help you in the lead up to your own scan. The scan isn't invasive and no need to be scared of the scan. But it is perfectly normal to be anxious about the results, I know I usually am (especially when waiting to review my tumours).

As always, if you're needing to ask a question you can always connect with me through email or via facebook. Please remember I am no Doctor, so it is always best to consult with your physician as your first point of contact. I am only sharing my experiences on this topic.

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p.s If you find my tips and blog helpful, please take a moment to vote for my blog in the Heritage savvy bloggers competition. With your help I (and if I win) I am starting a new support website (and app) to help other young people who live daily with a chronic illness. By taking a moment to vote not only will you be helping me to help others but I am confident that this website will change the lives of many (and if you're in Australia you could win $100). Please remember to confirm your vote via clicking the email they send (check your junk/spam too).

 
Posted by: Talya AT 06:48 am   |  Permalink   |  0 Comments  |  Email
Sunday, August 23 2015

One thing that annoys me the most about having a stoma, is needing to carry around my stoma kit everywhere I go (when leaving the house, you know... to prepare for bag leaks as there is nothing more unpleasant than walking around with poo leaking everywhere... trust me) and to be honest I don't really have the room in my handbag to carry it around what with all the bricks that I must be hiding in there, because that thing weighs a ton!

So last week I went away to the Gold Coast to the ProBlogger conference and had one of those lightbulb moments where I don't know why I never thought of this before... and it was converting a toiletry bag (that is rather small) that I got for free when travelling on the Indian Pacific train into a stoma supply kit that was equipped enough to handle at least 3 bag changes....


The small toiletry bag filled with my entire kit!

Surprisingly, it fitted everything I needed from my kit including: 3x Stoma bags (really can't forget those), scissors, elastic tape (or banana stickies as I call them), 3x mouldable rings, garbage bags (scented), my scentsy room spray (a god sent trust me), stoma adhesive powder as well as the barrier/adhesive remover wipes!


All of these items surprisingly fit!

The best thing about this is that it is compact and more discreet, and is the perfect size for my handbag. It also means that it is perfect for on the go whether at school, work or shopping and if you do have to do a bag change just remember to replenish the supplies used and it is ready for the next day out.


See! Told you it all fits (if you doubted me)

I feel less embarrased now as there isn't this big, black and bulky toiletry bag sticking out of my handbag! See the comparison below!


A comparison shot of the sizes of my stoma supply kits! Big difference now!

Honestly wishing I had thought of this years ago! And if you had and I am behind the 8-ball please don't judge me... I realise life simplifying tips and resources eventually (and then I share them with you all).

p.s If you find my tips and blog helpful, please take a moment to vote for my blog in the Heritage savvy bloggers competition. With your help I (and if I win) I am starting a new support website (and app) to help other young people who live daily with a chronic illness. By taking a moment to vote not only will you be helping me to help others but I am confident that this website will change the lives of many (and if you're in Australia you could win $100). Please remember to confirm your vote via clicking the email they send (check your junk/spam too).

 
Posted by: Talya AT 10:45 am   |  Permalink   |  Email
Friday, August 21 2015

NB: This post is an entry for the Heritage Bank Savvy Blogger Awards  please click on the icon at the bottom of this post, to vote for Feeling Ostomistic and you could be in the running to win $100 and help me to win a share of $11k which I want to use towards my chemo (and medical costs) coming up. Would mean a lot if you could support me.

Without a doubt you might have heard about the extremely over-the-top wedding in Sydney recently, if you haven't you may have been living under a rock... in that case I will summarise it for you. This super rich couple had a wedding which they closed down entire streets in Sydney causing traffic chaos, and their wedding car fleet involved cars worth a collective of $50 million dollars, as well as hiring helicopters, sea planes... but to have a nice wedding do you NEED to spend millions?


My dad and I at my wedding

I remember when I was planning my wedding years ago I wanted to have the big white wedding, and I was panicking at the cost it was all coming to (something like $10k+) and so was my husband well then fiance... and very quickly the wedding planning was becomming more about pleasing everyone else and catering to their needs rather than creating a day that was perfect for my husband and I.

Because of how much our wedding was going to cost we were planning it for 2 (almost 3) years away. But then something happened (rather fate as you might call it) and in the middle of June my then fiance (who struggles with large numbers of crowds and public performance) was rather overwhelmed with the wedding guest numbers and gave me an ultimatum....

He said either we get married in a month at the courthouse or we don't get married at all!

So I said that I will change our plans and organise a wedding in 4 weeks on a limited budget as long as we have a nice honeymoon and I get to have a nice 21st 2 years later and it be the wedding reception I had of hoped for....

Let's clear one thing up... there was no way I was getting married in the courthouse and I knew I had to plan a nice low-key wedding that was still memorable, that my husband would agree too and decided to make it as nice as I possibly could on a limited budget.... 

All in all, our wedding cost us just under $2500 and that was including everything!

Here are 10 ways I helped to save money on my wedding in under 4 weeks of planning, and I don't regret it at all!

#1 the dress = $220
My top tip when it comes to shopping for your wedding is to head to the stocktake sales in either June or after Christmas, as you will find some amazing bargains! It was lucky that all the stocktake sales had just started when I started planning my wedding in June something like 5 weeks before I was planning on getting married.

I knew it would be almost impossible to find the perfect traditional wedding dress in my size and budget within 4 weeks, and I knew I also wanted to be different to the norm as well.

So my wedding dress was this beautiful purple formal dress that just happened to be on special for $220 and was a perfect fit. Purple is my favourite colour too, so I knew it is a dress I would be happy in and happy to wear again.

#2 the tux = $250 (including jacket, pants, tie, vest & shirt)
We were lucky that we found the perfect suit on sale (thank you stocktake clearance) and imagine my delight when the entire combo including the tie, vest and shirt came in at just $250! The tux alone was normally $500 odd.

My husband has since worn the suit to weddings, funerals and job interviews.... and if you too saw him in the vest and suit you'd hire him too (bow chicka wow wow) [He would kill me if he knew I said that...truth...]

#3 the wedding bands = $300 for both
When we walked past the Micheal Hill Jewellery store, and Russ decided he wanted to check out wedding bands (and saw they were on special) and decided to buy them to put them away, it was the event that sparked his sudden need to get married and realised that the longer time went on the more he was getting anxious and couldn't do it.

So we found the rings were on stocktake clearance my wedding band was $200 (including a gorgeous row of diamonds) and his simple 'boring' band (as I say) was around $100. Was an absolute steal!

#4 the celebrant and photographer = $1200
How I found our celebrant and photographer was by an absolute fluke. I was at work (at the time as a telco department manager in a now closed electronics department store) when a customer came in needing a new phone contract. I happened to sell him the top of the range iPhone 3s (was THE.BEST.THING.AT.THE.TIME) and we got chatting about his business.

He told me he was a wedding photographer and organised elopement packages or small wedding packages which included the celebrant and photography during the ceremony and 1.5 hours afterwards (and all the photos printed in an album and on a disc too).

I went to the lunch room and found Russ (we happened to be working together at the time... he a computer salesman and I in the next department over selling phones and iPods.... no we didn't start dating when as co-workers.. and yes I got the job there after we were engaged) and told him I might have found us our celebrant and photographer. Russ came downstairs from his lunch break and the guy was still in the store (now needing to buy a new laptop) and we got chatting more about what he could offer us.

He said he had packages starting at $700 but for what we were wanting he could offer a small wedding ceremony and photography package for $1200. This was strictly 25 guests, the set up of the ceremony, the photography (including disc and images printed), the celebrant and filing of paperwork and any other legal fees.

While this meant we could only invite a small number of people to the ceremony (and I know some were a bit peeved about it) but it was all we could afford and had the most important people to us there. However, as we were having the reception/after party back where all my family lived (2 hours south) everyone was invited and most people understood (having had been married themselves knowing too well the cost involved).

#5 writing my own wedding ceremony = Priceless
I wanted our wedding ceremony to be really special, and to also help save on the costs of the celebrant I decided that I would write our entire ceremony (except for the legal blurb the celebrant has to state and a couple of readings), But otherwise the rest I wrote and composed myself (with of course the help from Russ).

#6 2 tier wedding cake = $200
When I went around getting prices of cakes from different bakers most were in excess of $600+ which just wasn't in my budget. I thought I would test the waters a bit and ask how much it was to have a 2 tier cake made (and left off the word wedding) and surprisingly it was much cheaper.


Our wedding cake

#7 bouquet of flowers = $30
Similarly, I found flowers (just like cakes) suddenly had a surcharge applied when you mentioned the word wedding. All I wanted was a nice bunch of white lillies with some nice white ribbon tied around them. These were $30 when the word wedding wasn't mentioned, and when it was it became $150.

I also thought it would be pretty yet simple if my sisters held one pink gerbra (with ribbon tied around) instead of a bouquet. I also gave them bubbles to blow through the ceremony so they wouldn't be bored and run a muck (they were afterall only 7 and 8). And a lot of the photos with the bubbles turned out beautifully!


My flowers

#8 Flower girl dresses = $50 each
Just like our attire we found the girls flower girl dresses reduced on the stocktake clearance racks for just $50 each! They needed a little adjustment to be made to the bodice, but otherwise were a perfect fit.

#9 Food at the reception (free for us)
We decided to have our reception/after party at a local pub that was a familiar spot for my family. I wanted it to be informal and inclusive of everyone, and as the pub did $5 feeds, I asked everyone instead of buying us a gift to insted pay for their own meals and drinks. My dad and pop ended up putting a tab on the bar as a wedding gift, which everyone (including us) were appreciative of. Although, it didn't last terribly long (even though it was only covering beer, soft drink and wine).

#10 Venue hire (free)
When I was looking into planning my wedding I was searching for places that were FREE or very low cost involved for both the ceremony and the reception. For the ceremony we got married on a headland overlooking the beach (and had whales breaching just off the headland- was magical) and didn't need to pay a fee (although check with your council as some require a permit). And then for the reception, we just hired out the pub as a private function and although I offered, they didn't accept money for the venue hire.

I didn't have it decorated much, just some tablecloths, DIY balloon centrepieces and the cake table decorated. But you can find some amazing DIY wedding decor on pinterest or local selling sites.

More ways to save on your wedding..
* I did my own DIY invitations (which were rather basic) before I had even dreamed of starting my own handmade invitations business (making my wedding invites seemed to have sparked an interest in handmade invitations for me).
* Hair, I visited my hairdresser a week prior to have my hair colouring and trim/tidy up done along with a hair trial. Best to get the colouring done at least a week before and not the day before so you have time to prepare in case you don't like it.
* Makeup, sometimes you can find students at TAFE who are studying and needing experience who can offer their services at an affordable rate. Otherwise, you can always reach out to your friends or family who are familiar with makeup and ask for their help.
* Wear in your shoes before your wedding day, nothing worse than walking around with sore blistery heels and feet.

While it may seem like my wedding was rushed (honestly had 4-5 weeks to plan it) I am so glad that I got married when I did rather than waiting until 2012 like we initially planned on getting married, as this meant my dad was able to walk me down the aisle and be there on my wedding day (not long after our wedding he was diagnosed with terminal Bowel Cancer, and passed away in March 2012).... I now have memories I will forever cherish from that day and conversations had (that still make me laugh). I don't regret have a cheaper low-key wedding, and after 5 years of wedded bliss this year, only proves that you don't need an expensive wedding to make a happy marriage.... also saving costs where possible meant we could go on a nice honeymoon to Hamilton Island for a week.

One last tip... A wise person told me before my wedding that I needed to savour every moment of the day and take it all in, as the day goes rather quickly especially when you're excited, and you don't want to miss out.... they also went on to say that if you make it back to your hotel suite and you are too tired (or drunk) to consumate your marriage, that it is okay and not to feel pressured that you HAVE to do it on that night... there is always the next morning and you have your whole marriage to worry about that (hehe).

Hope some of my tips shared can help you on your wedding planning, if you have a tip for others feel free to share it in the comments below.

 

 
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