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Monday, November 27 2017

Quotes and positive affirmations has a strong capability to empower, motivate and to instil positivity in your life and self or to help you find gratitude in your day too.

I love when I scroll through my feed and I see the posts from Smudge designs, well technically Pink Pom Pom as they've recently changed their names to. But every post makes me feel happy and helps me to feel all the feels.

Quotes can be used in SOOO many different ways too, you can frame them, you can pin them on your wall, you can add them all around your house. When I was studying, I loved hanging quotes around my desk and work area, to constantly remind me that I am strong, I am good and that I can do anything I set my mind and heart on.

Then there have been times when I loved having quotes around me: whether it were around my hospital room as I spent months in there and it was too clinical, it helped to liven the place up, then at home I used them as a reminder of my self worth.

What is great about these quotes is that you print at home, you can buy packs that are good bang for your buck or you could even buy to print as a gift!

To enter to win 1 x $25 voucher to smudge designs/pink pom pom printables

To enter:
1. Like/Follow Pink Pom Pom printables via instagram and facebook
2. Comment below telling me:
what is your favourite quote and what does it mean for you?
or do you have a favourite saying? if so, what is it and why?
3. *optional like or follow The Ostomistic Life via facebook or instagram too*

COMPETITION ENDS: 27th DECEMBER 2017 @ 11:59PM AEST (SYDNEY)

You must comment with a valid email (only I can see your email, it isn't publicly displayed) otherwise we can't contact you if you win.

If you have issues commenting, email your entry via the contact form on the site and when I am able to I will post your comment for you (note I am not always available at the computer to post your entry, please be patient, you'll receive a reply email when I see your email and are uploading your entry... so please be patient as I am dealing with my own health issues each day too).

Thank you Pink Pom Pom Printables (formally smudge design) for your support 

Best of luck and I look forward to reading your entries,


 

T&C's:
This promotion is in no way sponsored, endorsed or administered by, or associated with, Instagram or Facebook.
- This is a game of skill, winner will be judged based on their answer by a panel of judges of The Ostomistic Life's Choosing
- No purchase is necessary to enter or win
- Open worldwide to residents over age of 18
- Once a winner is chosen, that person will be emailed via the email address they left, they will have 48 hours to reply with an acceptance.
- Once I receive a response, I will email you a code for you to use at the store, there is no physical product or gift card to be posted.
- Prize IS NOT transferable or redeemable for cash

 We also have a cute colons pack to give away too thanks to iheartguts!

Posted by: Talya AT 11:37 pm   |  Permalink   |  0 Comments  |  Email
Monday, November 27 2017

I am feeling a mix of emotions right now, I am feeling so relieved that the magazine is finally ready to be published and shared with the world... but that part terrifies me!

I feel guilty for the delay, health issues happened, but I still worked hard when I could manage to get the issue out.

I also feel mega proud right now!

I hope you enjoy this issue, there is some great content in there and work for issue 3 is underway (summer/xmas/holidays issue) so if you have any content you want to contribute get in touch asap, or keep an eye on the facebook page too.

If you're a business and wanting to advertise - we offer affordable advertising options and also offer affordable graphic design too. I am also open to collaborations, just get in touch.

I am really hoping you love this issue, there are 2 giveaways too.

In this issue I launch my NEW Stoma Diary, this is an ebook that you can download for FREE  and print or edit via your computer or tablet. It is aimed at helping NEW ostomates navigate the first 6-8 weeks post op and as they approach surgery. I have had my own stoma nurse look over it and she excitedly shared it with her colleagues too.

So sit back with a cuppa and have a flip through.

I have tried to get more male relatable content out there but struggling to get the guys to contribute, anyone that knows me knows I am stubborn and persistent and I endeavour to have more male content in here, I am trying my best so please don't be disheartened.

Finally, If anyone is wanting to join the team on a voluntary position I would love some social media help and develop a content strategy etc, I recently posted about this on the magazine facebook page too.

Anyway, have a wonderful night and I will anxiously await your feedback.

Posted by: Talya AT 12:02 am   |  Permalink   |  0 Comments  |  Email
Sunday, November 26 2017

Hi and welcome to the first issue of the Ostomistic Life eZine prizes. Please find below some giveaways that might be of interest to you or if they are of interest to a friend please feel free to refer them to this page.

Prizes - up for grabs

#1. WIN a cuddly colon pack from iheartguts!
I don't have a colon anymore, but I sure wouldn't mind cuddling up to one of these cute plush ones. You are entering to win this awesome cuddly colons pack from iheartguts.


*EDIT:* Giveaway is open to people in Australia, New Zealand, US, Canada and UK only. So sorry

To enter:
1. Like/Follow iheartguts via instagram and facebook
2. Comment below telling me briefly 1 of the following :
what have you learned/gained from being an ostomate? 
or What is a piece of advice you'd give to yourself if you could go back to pre-surgery?
or what does being an ostomate or having an ostomate mean for you?
3. *optional like or follow The Ostomistic Life via facebook or instagram too*

COMPETITION ENDS: 27th DECEMBER 2017 @ 11:59PM AEST (SYDNEY)

You must comment with a valid email (only I can see your email, it isn't publicly displayed) otherwise we can't contact you if you win.

If you have issues commenting, email your entry via the contact form on the site and when I am able to I will post your comment for you (note I am not always available at the computer to post your entry, please be patient, you'll receive a reply email when I see your email and are uploading your entry... so please be patient as I am dealing with my own health issues each day too).

Thank you iheartguts for your support 

Best of luck and I look forward to reading your entries,

T&C's:
This promotion is in no way sponsored, endorsed or administered by, or associated with, Instagram or Facebook.
- This is a game of skill, winner will be judged based on their answer by a panel of judges of The Ostomistic Life's Choosing
- No purchase is necessary to enter or win
- Open to residents in
Australia, New Zealand, US, Canada and UK applicants over age of 18
- Once a winner is chosen, that person will be emailed via the email address they left, they will have 48 hours to reply with a postal address.
- Once I receive the postal address I will forward it to iheartguts who will post the package to the winner.
- Prize IS NOT transferable or redeemable for cash

 We also have a $25 smudge creative voucher up for grabs too!

 

Posted by: Talya AT 10:51 pm   |  Permalink   |  5 Comments  |  Email
Saturday, November 11 2017

Sometimes we think that society has advanced, but then there are times that remind you that the world around us is a cruel, judgemental place filled with so much hate and anger.

I think it is time that people stopped shaming people with disabilities, especially those with "invisible" disabilities. Unfortunately not all disabilities are visible and we should be open minded and not fast to judge and be cruel.

I saw several posts online today about how a young student had flyers and posters stuck all over her car calling her lazy for parking in a disabled parking space, or that she isn't actually disabled.

This girl is undergoing treatment for cancer including radiation, but these vigilantes shamed her and made her feel guilty about her situation.

As a young female who has cancer, I know how hard it were having chemotherapy and struggling with energy to go to the shops and do mundane things like going to the bathroom. 

Due to my tumours, one is the size of a watermelon and is attached to my stomach, small bowel, both kidneys, my ribs, my liver and presses on my back, and also compresses the nerves and blood supply to my stomach, bowel and my legs too.

I have a disabled parking permit because I am unable to walk more than a few metres at the time before needing to sit and rest as the pain is too much and the pressure along with the numb legs isn't pleasant.

So I have a wheelchair and I am not ashamed of it.

My wheelchair has given my life and ability to enjoy and love life back.

But people, even family, recently said that they thought I had a wheelchair because I am lazy.

Yes I am overweight, but that isn't why I need a wheelchair.

I need a wheelchair because I have a watermelon fucking sized tumour slowly killing me through strangulation.

But hey I am just lazy arent I?

I know this issue of disability shaming is happening all too often, just people think they see something they need to be somewhat of a hero and stand up for "what's right", which they feel is belittling someone to feel less than about having a disability because it isn't a perceived acceptable disability.

But not all disabilities are visible.

AND a disability isn't just someone using a wheelchair.

If you look up the term of disability it is: a physical or mental condition that limits a person's movements, senses, or activities. It doesn't say it is limiting to those in a wheelchair.

You don't know what is going on inside another person's body, you don't know the struggles that person is facing, you don't know the shit they have had to put up with that day already due to their disability.

So before you think you HAVE to say something, remember the acronym THINK:
T - Is it true?
H - Is it hurtful?
I - Is it inspiring?
N - Is it Necessary?
K - Is it Kind?

It might feel like your responsibility to call out every person you think is abusing the system, I get it, but while it helps you and your ego to feel better, you are destroying someone else's life just to make yourself feel better. Probably think you're helping to defend people, but you are just making people with an invisible disability to shy back further into their corner feeling shame for not being as able bodied as you.

In your actions just stop and think.... is this necessary? What will it achieve?

But you want to know what my doctor says to me everytime I break down crying in his office over someone disability shaming me?

He says: "Talya, if I didn't think you deserved it I wouldn't have signed off on it.... fuck the haters", so you can see why I love my GP so much as he has my back. A doctor wouldn't just hand out a permit if you didn't deserve it.

Yes, there are people who abuse the system, but it isn't your place to think you are calling someone out.

One incident last year: Russ and I were in the car and parking in the CBD, some lady stopped and argued with us for 20 minutes over if we could park there all because my husband had P plates on his car she wouldn't believe that the permit was ours because we were young. Young people have disabilities too and they come in all shapes and sizes. 

Next time you want to shame someone, stop and think first.

If you feel you MUST do something to make yourself feel better, go and donate to charity or do something selfless for someone else. Making others feel good is a much better feeling than making yourself feel good for putting someone down.

There is so much anger and pain in the world already, let's not add to it hey.... be more kind to others.

The world needs more love and they say if we want to create change to start at home first.

Posted by: Talya AT 07:20 pm   |  Permalink   |  0 Comments  |  Email
Saturday, November 11 2017

CW: This post talks infertility, miscarriage and other heartbreak caused by having a faulty body


Our family photos Xmas '17, how tiny and adorable he was!

If you follow me on social media, no doubt you have met the gorgeous little furball Dusty who is a ragdoll x blue russian kitten. He has the most gorgeous blue eyes and has made every day over the past year filled with love, fun, adventure and cuddles.

Wait, 12 months on, is he still a kitten or is he a cat? I hate to think of him as a grown cat as he is wholeheartedly my little furbaby. I still like to think of him as this tiny little ball of fluff that relied on me.

Dusty has filled a void that I have had for far too long, and I know Russ will say the same.

Dusty is our baby, he is our child we never had and he is a spoiled little shit. I say that with lots of love. He has destroyed everything because he can, he makes a habit out of biting my ankles or backs of my knees, and he just throws tantrums if he doesn't get what he wants.... I love him, I do, but some days he can be a handful.

However, I know the huge benefit Dusty has had on my wellbeing, I believe he is a major part of why I am still here, he has filled our home and hearts with so much love, laughter, joy, and I know the last 12 months would have been a lot more lonlier and isolating if it weren't for him.


Russ and Dusty Hi-5ing as they visit me in hospital

Our Hopes for a family:

Russ and I have always wanted children, even before our first date 8 years ago he said "I am looking to settle down, to have a family, to find the one person to spend the rest of my life with". At the time the then 18-year-old me was like "hmm ok we'll see" it wasn't in my life's plan to have kids until I was at least 24, married and had a career and house. But then once we got to know each other, he supported me through several brain surgeries a month after we started dating, I knew there was something special about Russ and when he proposed a couple of months later I said yes. I was excited for what the future had in store for us, it was my chance for a new beginning and hopefully a family.

We had one misscarriage in February Valentine's Day (was the day of our engagement party) and it was the only successful attempt. We were shattered. We were hopeful that we would be a family one day.

Later that year we got married (July), then sometime after the wedding we learned that my dad was terminal with bowel cancer at 39 years of age and that it were a rare hereditary form that it was high probability that I too shared this gene. 

My doctors forewarned that I were likely to have cancer myself but wouldn't be until around 30 (boy they were wrong) and suggested we try and plan for a family right away and live our lives before surgery and cancer took over.

Our hopes and dreams as newlyweds of having the family we longed for were shattered now that we were gambling the life of a future child in our hands. We started meeting with geneticists, specialists, gynecologists, fertility specialists and counsellors to fully go over our options.

In 2012, 2 years after my diagnosis of FAP, I had investigative surgery of my pelvic area including my bladder and bowel.

I woke from surgery being told that I was in a medically induced menopause and that on top of the FAP I had severe stage 4 endometriosis and the chances of having a child with IVF was less than 1% and would be too costly.

So it was then that we put the plans of us having a family of our own to rest, we then said we would foster, adopt or get a kitten as Russ isn't a dog person.

In 2013, in the months that I were free of bowel cancer and rejoicing for my new lease on life after having surgery to have an ileostomy, we started training to be foster parents. In 2014, we learned of the new tumour where the bowel used to be and was told that I now couldn't be a foster parent until I had been 5 years cancer free and had a stable life - bringing a kid into a house with a sick parent could be traumatising for the child - so we said we would wait for that day to come.

Which brings us to 12 months ago:

We had moved into our own home, now as home owners we could have a kitten. We were scrolling through facebook one day when a lady posted a photo of Dusty and said he was available in 2 months time (late october). I quickly messaged expecting him to have been sold already, but to my surprise he hadn't found his forever home yet. Later that day Russ dropped by on his way home from work and paid for him and had his first cuddles with him.

Russ was completley smitten and in love.

It filled my heart with so much joy seeing the bond they've shared over the past year.

Dusty cuddles up to me a lot through the day and the night, but as soon as Russell's alarm goes off he shoots off the bed and meows all excitedly as he knows he is about to be fed. When Russ comes home Dusty runs to the door to greet him, Russ will pick him up for cuddles and often rolls around on the floor playing with him. 

It is a comfort some days knowing that Russ will not come home to an empty house once I've died, that he will always come home to seomone who loves him and needs him and I think (hope) that Dusty will be a great comfort for Russ.

I know a cat isn't a child, but Dusty is our little baby. He is funny, mischeivious, smart, playful and loving.

Dusty is so clever! He plays fetch. He learned when he was really little that I spend a lot of time in bed when I have bad days, so he learned if he wanted someone to play with that he needs to play on the bed as I am laying down, and it has worked really well.

He at times has sensed when I am upset or anxious, he often checks on me during my bad days, he also sometimes wakes me up by poking me in the face with his fish-on-a-stick-toy, but he has made me feel full and loved. He is so protective of me it is adorable.

I now feel like we are a family and we have Dusty to thank for completing our lives.

I know I post a lot of Dusty posts on social media, but most days he is the best part of my day and I want to share that with the world.

I always had been told that pets are theraputic, but until this past year I wasn't a believer. I get asked why I haven't died yet and what has changed in the past year and my answer is Dusty.


Have you got a little furbaby? Have you found the benefits they have made to your health and wellbeing as well?

Posted by: Talya AT 05:40 pm   |  Permalink   |  1 Comment  |  Email
Friday, November 03 2017

Recently, I was asked to be the Australian writer and contributor to OstomyConnection.com which is a site dedicated to being a hub on all aspects of ostomy life.

I was asked to write an article on:
20 Aussie Ostomates who you can connect with on Instagram.
You can read the article by clicking here.

Despite there being approximately 44,000 Australians living with an ostomy, it can at times feel frighteningly lonely and friendless, especially if you live in remote or rural areas of Australia (like myself). 

When I was 21 (in 2012), I was told that I needed a permanent ileostomy due to early stages of bowel cancer. I didn’t know anyone to help me understand ostomy life, especially my concerns as a young person (moreso, a young female) and navigating/living a fulfilling life. So I sought out a local stoma support group but at the time there was a 40 year age gap with the nearest age to mine, which made me feel more alone and unable to relate to them or their lives.

So .... I turned to the internet - particularly social media - in a desperate search for proof that a life can still be lived with an ostomy. At the time there weren’t many bloggers or people publicly sharing their life with a stoma, so it was hard back then to find “your people” or someone who just got you and could completely empathise with you.

Today, Instagram has a community of over 800 million users!

That is 800 million chances to find your community that you want to connect with or to be inspired by…. After all, a friendship is born at the moment that one person says to the other “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”

One of the perks of social media is the ability to connect people and to help them feel less alone and isolated.

Whilst I know that there are thousands of Aussie Ostomates on Instagram, here are my top pick of 20 fellow Aussies that I know you’ll not only find relatable and awe-inspiring through the lives they lead, but that you’ll also love. Each contribute vastly to ostomy life.

I look forward to bringing you many more articles.

You can read the post here https://ostomyconnection.com/news-and-culture/20-ostomates-in-australia-to-connect-with-on-instagram 

 

Posted by: Talya AT 12:54 pm   |  Permalink   |  0 Comments  |  Email
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